As a flight attendant for thirteen years with two carriers, I learned a lot about traveling with babies but the real lesson was ahead of me. Now I'm usually flying alone my own three between Europe, where I now live, and California, where I'm originally from about every six months. We've also taken quite a few flights within Europe and domestic flights in the States. I've actually lost count of how many and now we can claim we’ve done stand-by, full fare, low cost, charter, etc.
Some of this information might seem obvious to you, especially if you've flown a few times both with or without your children. Some reading this have never been on a plane themselves, or it's been long time ago, so please keep this in mind.
Also, to be clear, this article is not a legal document and can't be used as proof of any of the laws or rules I refer to throughout. Check the FAA websites, or other relevant agencies to confirm any statements I make. Be aware, also, that airlines often have their own policies which might be stricter than their own government's laws. Most of the employees you encounter do not have the power to change or make exceptions to any rule. They simply must follow it, even in cases where logic or safety is questionable. Now that I've covered my backside...
Flying with babies? For me, it's definitely a means to an end. I loved my job. I love traveling but actually flying in the plane with my little ones, I just try to get through it as smoothly as possible. If it helps, calculate how much of your total trip will actually be spent on the plane. A mom flying halfway around the world wrote me to tell me that thought helped. Even for a short visit, the actual proportion of the time will be short.
One of the worst mistakes to make, is to assume that the last time you flew, everything went great so it will again. Also, how much they've flown has little or no impact on how it will be, as long as the adults have their act together. Not too many kids have flown as much as mine have and I've stopped predicting whether they'll have horns or halos during the flight. It's variable. The purpose here is to keep make it as easy as possible. I usually expect that everything will go wrong. If any mishaps occur, well, stuff happens. That's a given. If everything goes smoothly, celebrate!
Documentation
If you are at the stage of considering a journey, look into what documents you need for your child as soon as you can organize it. Obviously it's impossible to cover this subject thoroughly but make sure you have what you need. There are too many horror stories of families being turned away at the airport, if not prevented from booking in the first place.
For international travel, your child probably needs a passport. There only very few exceptions and many countries are switching from the system of putting children in their parents' passports to requiring every child to have his or her own. Also, because of the worldwide security situation, many countries are requiring passports which used to let nationals of neighboring countries visit without them previously. For domestic U.S. travel, you will need a certified copy of the child's birth certificate. If you prefer a picture ID, it is not required but DMV (Department of Mot er Vehicles) offices will issue a photo ID with a photo for a small fee. Many countries have national ID cards. They are usually free but may take some time to obtain. Check expiration dates as they vary from document to document. Always double check with the airline as well. Find out what they want to see when you check in. This information is usually on the airline's website.
A big stumbling block can be the photo. Taking children's pictures is not always easy in the best of circumstances and getting a little one to cooperate with the requirements of an official document, even less so. Many insist on pure-white backgrounds. For a U.S. passport, both ears must show and the eyes must be open. There can also be issues with photo sizes. Get this information clear and don't risk your file being refused or delayed for some petty detail that could have easily been avoided.
As a reminder, U.S.citizens with other nationalities cannot enter the country on any other passport with no exceptions for children. If living internationally, it may be easier to obtain your child's other passport but this will not be accepted by U.S. immigration. If you are American and are reading this in anticipation of an international adoption, your agency will give you the information you need but the child can enter the U.S. on his or her original passport, as long as his American nationality has not gone through yet.
If you are U.S. citizens, or any other nationality with the same requirement, I recommend having them with you any time you travel away from home, whether you need them or not. If for some reason, you have to travel to the U.S for unforeseen circumstances, such as a family emergency, you will want to head for the nearest airport so avoid complicating matters with having to return to collect your passports.
I also want to recommend that anyone with loved ones beyond their borders keep a valid passport at all times just in case of the unforeseen, even if a journey is not planned in the near future and even if they wont be living there long.
It's also a good idea to regularly check passports for expiration dates. Remember that some countries require not just a valid passport but one that is for the next 3 or 6 months.
Someone reminded me to bring the medical records. This is a great idea but I have to confess, this is a case of do what I say, and not what I actually don't do. My kids' French health records are large and bulky-a feeble excuse I'll admit! This is especially important if there could be language issues or if your child has any specific health concerns.
If you are not flying with the other parent, it is a good idea to have a permission letter. It is rare they would ask for anything but especially for international travel, it's a good idea. If you have sole custody of your child, bring documentation of that fact. If you are flying with someone else's children, even if related to you, please make sure you have both power of attorney (in case of emergencies) and a permission letter from the parents.Find out if it needs to be notarized.
Car Seats
I am a big promoter of "to each his own" for both comfort and security for you, your child and those seated around you. Flying with a car seat is actually the only way to fly safely with a baby. Now that I've stated this, I have to qualify that commercial aviation is safe and there's very little chance of anything going wrong but if it does, your child is not protected.
Every child has to have a seat after his or her second birthday according to the FAA and most foreign air authorities. In some places, it's possible to fudge on this and I get all sorts of reports of people getting away with it.
Not only is there the safety issue but twice, I have had delays due to finding out that a child was over 2 without his own seat. Don't risk it. The burden will be on you to prove your child is under two and you might be charged the full fare one-way ticket if your child is not. Be prepared to show proper identification. For international travel, you have to have your child's passport anyway and the birthdate will be checked.
Some air regulators allow children to fly back on the same ticket after their second birthday and/or within a certain time frame.
Under two year olds are allowed on laps for commercial reasons. Airlines think they can sell more tickets and there's little push for parents since they save money and chances are, their children will still arrive at the destination in good shape. So there is little incentive to change this rule, from parents, airlines and the rest of the travelling public for who it doesn't affect.
http://www.cpsafety.com/articles/airplanetravel.aspx
In a car seat, the aircraft could turn upside down and it can still hold your child. There was recently a small aircraft accident in Canada where the only survivor was a three year old girl strapped into a car seat.
Yes, a child in a seat is less likely to disturb others. Mine were much calmer and settled in their own familiar seat. There is also the risk of a toddler jumping up and running around during taxi. If you can't control your toddler during this crucial phase of the flight, the whole family can be off-loaded for "non-cooperation with crew member instructions". This rule existed before 9/11 but is much more seriously enforced after. If any passenger got up during taxi, we were required to call the cockpit who would then stop the whole aircraft. I had to do this a couple of times for pressing personal reasons. If it happens several times, you may find yourselves being brought back to the gate and "off-loaded".
As a mom, I had to strap a couple of unhappy toddlers in their seats for both take-off and landing. I noticed they usually quieted down once they realized this was a non-negotiable issue. While I don't like using force, once they were strapped in, I could concentrate on their unhappiness, comforting them, talking to them and holding their little hands, not chasing them or holding them down in their seat or on my lap.
Just a reminder to never use car seats provided by a car rental company. I had a bad experience one and unfortunately, I am not alone. The car seats provided by rental companies are at best dirty, worn and incorrectly washed (i.e. soaked straps). At worst, they could be expired, missing parts and could have been involved in a recall. Your childrens' safety is too important to take the risk of using one of these. Always bring your own or make other arrangements.
Another advantage to bringing one on board was that I could get up and attend to my own needs if my child fell asleep in their car seat. No, I didn't take any longer than necessary but a much appreciated trip to the restroom or to get a drink. I almost always fly alone and this was especially useful. I knew that turbulence could start and my child was safe. I usually tried to tell a neighbor or Flight Attendant where I was going, or at least in which direction.
If I haven't made a strong enough argument for bringing car seats by this time, I'll describe what happens in an emergency. Please stop reading if this will upset you, but we were instructed to wrap the baby in a blanket and place them on the floor. I'm so glad I never was put in a position to have to give these instructions but the parents were to hold the child to the ground during the emergency landing. This has worked and has saved lives...but not always.
Usually, car seats do not count against your baggage allowance but always ask, especially if flying a very small aircraft and/or a low-cost company.
Car seats pose a few practical challenges. Because of the details, this information will be separated and discussed later in this article as they apply to flying.
Car Seat Alternatives
Some companies outside of North America still use "belly belts". These are seat belts that attach to the parents' belts. These offer no protection to the child but their use is justified by other air authorities citing that they keep the child from flying through the cabin on impact. Children are safer loose in the adults' lap. The problem is that with a forward thrust, adults have come down on their own child. This is called the "human air bag" theory. For this reason, the air authorities in Canada, the U.S. Germany and elsewhere ban these devices.
Alternate and travel car seats are never allowed on board. The seat has to have a hard back. Also, research these products carefully before travelling. Many are not approved by car seat technicians, although allowed. There are a few good car vests. While these are a viable alternative in the car to a seat belt, they usually need a shoulder belt or a LATCH hook, neither of which are available on aircraft. It's a good, safe product but unfortunately, wont offer any protection on an aircraft.
Booster seats are never FAA approved. They basically only position the shoulder strap, which airplane seats lack. Also, airplane seats collapse forward for use in an evacuation. For these reasons, only seats with hard backs and internal harnesses are approved. If you have a seat which converts to a booster, check your manual carefully. With the internal harness, it may be FAA approved but used as a booster with the adult seat belt, it wont.
Presently, there is only one item that can replace a car seat, the CARES harness.
http://kidsflysafe.com
They claim that it is as safe as a car seat but it has no side protection nor crotch strap so I find this hard to believe.
Your child has to have a separate seat to use this product. You can try to ask for an empty seat, as instructed for car seats but having this item does not give you any priority or right to an extra seat. Again, this is a favor to parents, not a requirement.
This is a very useful item in certain cases but for approximately $75, it is expensive for something that can only be used in an airplane. Obviously, it is much easier to transport. What you do not want to do is to use it on board while checking the car seat as baggage which risks that your seat could get lost and/or damaged. If you only have one child and/or are more than one adult flying, transporting a car seat is actually not that big a deal as their website suggests. More on that subject further on in this article.
Some enterprising Ebay and Craigslist participants are actually renting these items. I also imagine that they have good resale value, once your youngest child outgrows it.
Another big plus with this item is that it is approved by quite a few air authorities. So far, it is allowed in North America, the U.K., Australia, Singapore, New Zealand but European Union approval is still pending.
Be aware that there is only a small age group that can use this item. Your child has to be at least a year old and weigh between 22 and 44lbs. They are currently testing a higher weight version but it is not yet available.
If you have car seats organized where you are headed, such as visiting relatives who keep car seats for your visits, this is a good plan.
Remember that most seats expire after 6 years so be aware of that when borrowing or using other peoples' seats. You may be headed to a large city where you will be exclusively using public transport so this might be a good option for this situation. It's also a good alternative if you have several children close in age and physically can't take all the seats you need, especially if flying alone. You will probably still have to find a way to organize seats at your destination, avoiding using rental seats and/or checking your seat. In certain cases, it may be a situation of choosing the least of two evils.
No other item like this is approved. Be careful of mismarketing with other products. One item actually advertises that it "meets and exceeds FAA standards" when in truth, there are no FAA standards for these products. Turns out they used FAA facilities to test but this doesn't translates to actual approval.
Car Seat Policies
Before deciding whether you want to spend the money on the seat for your child, find out what your airline policies are, which can vary widely. Some of the same airlines which brag that they are "child-friendly" because of amenities actually fall short on actually keeping your child safe. They may hand out a lot of toys but when it comes to securing your child, they just don't come through. When booking, this could also be a deciding factor in which airline to choose. It is for me...
If you are flying a U.S. registered company, your child has his or her own seat and the car seat is FAA certified, your right to use it on board is protected by law. No need to read further.
Do not be intimidated by stories of Flight Attendants not allowing car seats on board in the U.S. Know that the rules are in your favor and stand your ground...politely. Print up some of the links in this article and bring your owners' manual. Ask nicely to speak to the purser before things get heated and you can also ask they they show you in writing where your seat is not allowed. Every Flight Attendant with U.S. companies have to have their manual on every flight. They do not have to memorize all the information but they are required to be able to use it and know where to find certain information at will.
If you are not flying a U.S. or Canadian company, your rights are not guaranteed and the requirements are very inconsistent. Check directly with the airline, not necessarily that country's air authority. Individual airlines in the U.S. are not allowed to override FAA regulations (although they can add to them) but elsewhere, an airline can simply decide to change the rules set by their national air authorities. For example, in some countries, car seats are allowed, and regulations set accordingly, but specific airlines have decided to ban car seats entirely and none are allowed in the cabin.
Low cost companies outside the U.S. and Canada may not allow the use of any car seat in flight. They justify it by citing that this safety compromise saves time.
Some airlines, by contrast, are actually very flexible and allow car seats with approval from multiple nationalities. For example, if you FAA approved seat, you can still use it on some non-U.S. airlines.
A common rule found many places the world, but specifically in the U.K., is that the car seat is required to face forward. This rule has no safety logic and means that most infant seats, which are designed only to face backwards, cannot be used at all.
In addition, some airlines do not allow car seat use on take-off and landing for babies under six months old. Some even then require the use of the dangerous "belly belts" which put them at risk in forward impact. This goes against all my Flight Attendant training and I have no idea as to why a smaller baby does not have the right to be kept secure in his or her own seat.
Also, there can be age limits. Children are often prevented from using a car seat on his or her third birthday, regardless of weight. If you have an approved car seat and plan to take it on board to use at your destination, too bad. You have to risk damage and/or loss by checking it. If your child is of small stature, that's also too bad. This could affect children with certain disabilities so check if there are local laws which override this nonsensical rule.
By the way, I have to say that these rules will continue if parents do not speak up. If you think that changes need to be made by your local air authority, please let them know. Why should children in the U.S. be allowed to fly more safely than elsewhere?
I have used the "wrong" nationality car seat for my child on many occasions. I simply board, install the seat and see if anyone notices. This has worked more times than it hasn't. The seats were approved for airline use but not by the "right" countries but when they were removed, I simply handed it over and they stowed it on board somewhere. There was no penalty or punishment. I did have the purser brought over once and discussed it. He actually admitted that he was, indeed, forcing my child to travel less safely but his hands were tied by the rules. Another time, on another airline and nationality, they took it, told me they'd give it back to us and then simply didn't.
Some airlines are not inspected as often as others. I used to not check seats for the FAA sticker on purpose. I felt strongly that if the parents were conscientious enough to cart the seat on board and use it, I was not going to split hairs and give them any problems. Once I had a FAA inspector and actually told him my sentiments. This same inspector actually was on several of my flights and contributed a lot of the information included in this article.
Remember that no matter how illogical and nonsensical a rule may be, but worldwide, cooperating with the crew is required. Crew members cannot change rules set by their airline and/or national air authority. Overall, commercial air travel is very safe and statistically, your child is still safer on board the aircraft, no matter how he or she is carried or held, than they were in the car on the way to the airport. If things are not resolved to your satisfaction, you must follow their instructions, no matter how counter-logical, do what they say and register a complaint directly with the airline later.
Reserving
When you book your flight, a few tips can make the trip easier.
Flying off season is not always possible but booking a few days forward or back can be dramatically different in price and how full the flight is. It's easier with children when the flight isn't jam-packed. Look at a few flights if your itinerary is flexible with the agent or on the net. This can take a little time but it might be worth punching a few extra buttons to have a bit more peace in the air.
I actually do better for both price and convenience by buying with an agent than over the net. Also, look at both the airlines' own sites, as well as discount sites when shopping around.
Some of the sites wont let you book a child under two in his or her own seat, automatically making them "lap" babies. I hate to tell you to cheat, but if you want a seat for your baby and there is no way around the booking, add a year or two to the birthdate. You are not trying to "get away" with anything, in fact, the airline is making more money off of you. It is simply to get around a computer glitch. Another trick is to take the fares and contact an agent. Tell them your dilemma and ask them to "match" the internet price ticket.
Check all connections yourself. Make sure they're reasonable and there isn't some nasty surprise, like having to change airports. Remember that if you're flying into the States, you must clear Customs and Immigration at your "first port of entry". If you're connecting, the process is actually straightforward. There are agents to help re-collect your bags and there are usually a lot of people doing the same thing. But when you reserve, be sure you have time to complete this process.
Remember that a 'direct' and a 'non-stop' aren't always the same thing. Always double check that the same flight number doesn't stop and even change air crafts. With a "direct" flight, it can. Often these terms get confused and people think they're the same, sometimes not realizing until they board.
Only let an agent convince you that a connection of an hour and a half is enough time if you're flying within the same country, to a connection point that has a lot of flights going to your final destination, staying in the same terminal, preferably with the same airline. You still have very little "jiggle" room if your first flight is delayed. If not all of the above applies, give yourselves two hours minimum, adding time for changing terminals, changing airlines and getting through security, immigration and customs (for international). This might be excessive to someone flying without kids but remember that you can't just jog through the airport anymore, like you do/did on solo business trips. Everything with children will take more time. By contrast, I can easily pass three hours in almost any airport with my kids when that would have been a horribly long wait in my pre-baby days so I don't dread long layovers like I used to either.
You'll hear a lot about which airline is "best" for traveling with children. I discussed car seat use above but in general, I really don't suggest digging into the subject unless you absolutely have no other criteria to consider. By the time you look at prices, availability and routing, I doubt there will be much choice. To be honest, from someone who worked out of countless airports, your experience might depend more on the crew on that specific route than on the airline itself. When someone gives their opinion on the subject, it's really only relevant if they flew on the same exact flight at the same time of year. I'll have someone rave on about a certain airline to learn that the flight was half empty. The fact they got great service is not a big surprise.
This is general information on connections; if changing airlines, ask if they have "one stop check-in" so that you wont have to repeat the process. Some "code shared" airlines have "seamless" check-in where you get all your boarding passes at one time. Other times, you'll be checked in but will have to collect your boarding passes at the connection point. This isn't the end of the world and often can't be avoided. Just find out what steps your connection involves so that you're not standing in line for nothing or run into problems because you didn't do something. I don't think this is a criteria for which route or airline to take. I have chosen flights based on connections and airport changes but whether you can get your boarding passes right away is really only a detail, albeit a nice one if you can get it!
Don't change airports if at all possible. Watch out for this on the net. Look carefully at each airport code before hitting the "enter" button. My mistake once, which was rectified by a very nice reservations agent. I was saved because I called right away and there was room on the flight I really wanted. Don't make my mistake! Be careful too of "low-cost" carriers. They often fly into really remote airports. In fact, objection has been raised over what city they even supposedly serve. Many are in the opposite direction from the city as the major airport.
Unaccompanied Minors and Minors Flying Solo
The subject is flying with children but I do want to address those who are considering sending their children alone or as unaccompanied minors.
We call them "UM"s and the minimum age is usually five years old. In fact, I have never found an airline which will accept UM's at any younger age (let me know if you do). Not only is there the age minimum but many airlines restrict what flights on which they will be accepted. They may not allow connections, "Red-eye" flights and/or the last flight of the day, or have older age minimums for these cases. The restrictions can get complicated and if there are several children flying together, usually they are restricted to the requirements of the youngest of the party. Be sure to read all rules before booking your child(ren) this way.
Most of the UM's I had on my flights were the children of divorced parents. This may be a requirement for travel already specified so check if this is your situation. Some of these children were not too happy about making this journey and were not necessarily cooperative. You may want to explain this to an older child because they may observe that the airline staff are rather strict with them and advise them to not take this too personally.
Sending your child with these services is safe, reliable and taken very seriously by the airlines. I personally have never been put in a position to fly any of my children this way but I would not hesitate if it were so. I would not recommend this if it's your child's very first flight though but don't panick if you don't have a choice.
You must be present for check-in. Stay with your child until he or she heads for security. Stay at the airport until the flight is listed as departed on the screen (or even better, if you can see it leave but unlikely at a bigger airport).
The person picking your child must be named and have identification. If you are sending your child to a school or camp, they probably have a procedure in place so ask.
Be aware that this is not a baby sitting service. They are escorted through the airport by an airline employee and have help with customs, immigration and paperwork formalities. When they get to the aircraft, they are handed over to the Flight Attendants who have their location marked on the passenger manifest. We keep an eye out for them, checking on them from time to time but they aren't necessarily treated any differently than other young people on board. On landing, they usually disembarked last and we "handed" them over to another dedicated airline employee to be taken through the airport either to their connection or whomever was meeting them at their destination. They may be given special instructions for landing, for example, to stay with a certain Flight Attendant and/or to wait until all the other passengers have disembarked.
What we did do is keep their passports on international flights and fill out any necessary paperwork. Please explain this to your child that this is the procedure and to not ask for their passports during the flight. Some would panick as they saw the paperwork being handed out and we would have to explain each time that we were doing it for them. Some argued and wanted to do it themselves. Sometimes I "cheated" and let them fill out a card for fun.
Very rarely, and I've only heard of this in the Far East, there are companies which have actual escort (sorry, I can't think of a better word) services where an employee actually flies with the child. I have never seen this but I'm mentioning this as yet-another flying option. Also, please don't confuse the two but I imagine this to be a very costly option.
Most of the time, you cannot book unaccompanied minors on-line. Some low cost companies don't offer this service at all. Usually, if this is the case, the age minimum might be slightly younger, say 13 or 14 to fly alone. Be careful of this because tickets are usually purchased on line without asking the age (or doing so in very fine print) only to arrive at the airport and have the young passenger be refused.
There are also complications if say, you want to accompany your child yourself, on a separate reservation (i.e. if you are flying back earlier, having someone else bring them back, etc.) Do not reserve any part of the journey from any parties until you have straight what is and is not allowed. Unaccompanied minor fees can run as high as $100 so don't be requred to pay it if not necessary.
Try to avoid booking your child as an UM on an airline that doesn't speak his or her language. Most airlines only have one or two language speakers per flight and if they are in a different cabin of service and/or on break, your child may be left incommunicado for hours, not able to ask for a drink or where the restrooms are. They also will be able to watch the entertainment more easily if they are flying their own national company.
"UM"s can be as old as 16 or 17 years old. I did have quite a few on my flights that age. If you are sending a teenager with younger siblings, consider making them all UM's if they have connections and/or are flying internationally. Your teenager might be fine on their own but putting them in charge of younger children may be asking too much and the fee means they will have help with bags, paperwork, etc. Again, it may be a requirement if they are still a minor and flying between two divorced parents.
Low Cost Companies
These new companies are making air travel more accessable but some of the rules are slightly different than flying with regular companies.
First of all, they often fly into really remote airports. In fact, objection has been raised over what city they even supposedly serve and these have ended up in court. Some airlines even list their airports by different cities than for which they were originally named, for example "Barcelona" is really Girona. Occasionally, they use a more convenient airport or perhaps they land closer to where you're headed but find out exactly where they land and do not simply go by the city on their list.
I recommend never mixing same-day travel between low-cost and "mainstream" companies. They don't have agreements (another cost-saving) and there are other complications with totally separate reservations.
One way they sell tickets cheaper is that they don't strictly handle connections. Tickets are often sold "point to point" and you arrive at the connection point, you get your bags, pass through arrivals and head for initial check-in all over again. I've done it alone with three children and it wasn't actually that terrible. It's usually obvious when you book that you're buying two separate tickets so it shouldn't come as an ugly surprise. Just schedule lots of time. I gave it three hours and kept it sane and stress-free. We actually sat down and had a meal in between.
Check that there are no restrictions to flying with more than one child. At least one airline does not allow one adult to fly with two children under a certain age.
If you want to use a car seat and you are not flying with a U.S. company, make sure there is no ban. U.S. companies are not allowed to ban car seat use on board but other nationalites can and do.
Low Cost Companies in most countries usually don't serve meals and when they do, they're overpriced, limited and usually not the best. Meanwhile, you are welcome to bring a whole picnic onboard if you want. In the terminals where low-cost companies fly, often there are plenty of food stands which are conveniently after security points. So head for your gate as soon as you can and stock up for you and your kids.
Be very aware of bags. It's usually cheaper to pay for your bags ahead of time. It might be better to over estimate your luggage because if you add it later, or worse, show up at the airport with more, it might be a steep fee. This is a general tip but parents should be aware that extra baggage at the airport might mean waiting in another line and dragging out the check-in process.
Also, if they offer "priority boarding" at a cost, it's a good idea with children. Ask but they probably don't pre-board families. This "priority boarding" is usually not expensive but a silly thing to actually pay for. We end up simply getting on the first bus out to the aircraft but with open seating, you might have to really fight to seat the family together. One experience doing that convinced me that the three euros per person was well spent.
Upgrading
I really advise against using any upgrades if you have a baby or toddler. It sounds nice, a little more room to move, a better meal, etc. The truth is that businesspeople get really annoyed with young children very quickly. Some have to disembark straight into meetings and presentations on arrival and need to sleep the maximum possible. Many of those passengers have justified paying the extra money specifically to avoid the noise in economy and including sitting near children and babies.
If you have frequent flyer points and a child under two years of age, your points are better spent getting two seats in economy rather than one in business. If you have a bad back or other physical problem, having two seats in economy is better for you than constantly lifting your child, even if you're sitting in a bigger business seat.
The atmosphere is definitely more welcoming for little ones in the back. There's a bit more noise, children are less noticeable and moving around is more acceptable. I had several small members of a royal family once in First once and the other passengers weren't thrilled. For the record, both companies I worked for didn't allow their own employees to fly with their children in business class until they were at least 8 or 10 years old.
If your family is split and one parent is in business, make it clear to your children that they are not to go up to that class to visit the other parent. Many airlines have rules preventing passengers from walking into a higher class of service, even if related someone seated in that section. You may not be allowed to swap either, so don't plan on doing this if you book the separate seat in business. I really advise against families splitting up in general. I've seen it go wrong on too many flights...
Seating
"Bulkhead" seats are often recommended for families. We're talking about the ones with the wall in front. They are not necessarily in the front of the cabin, as many believe. It depends on the aircraft. I think they're ideal for toddlers as you avoid the problem of the child kicking the seats in front of them thus annoying the neighbors. You can also get in and out of these seats easier, as you will be doing that a lot with a toddler or baby. Plus, children can often play in that space on the floor, close to their parents and their seats.
Not everyone loves them though. There isn't much forward legroom (although some are comfortably set far back) and stowage is limited. If you have extra seats in that row, often the armrests often wont come up to lie down. Of course with the newer entertainment systems, it's often not possible to put up the armrests anywhere, anyway. Some bulkheads are in front of emergency exits so only those over 14 can sit there (among other restrictions). The other disadvantage cited is that there is a large, pull-down movie screen and that could bother some children. If the aircraft has individual screens, this wont be the case.
Normally, for bulkhead seats, you have to stow your bags just for take-off and landing. I've had reports that some foreign airlines require the bags be stowed for the entire flight. You may want to ask specifically about this if you are not flying a non-U.S. carrier. Otherwise, feel free to get your things down once the seatbelt sign is off.
Some airlines will not reserve bulkheads ahead of time, and state that they're specifically reserved for families. You are put on a waiting list for them. If there is too much demand, they will determine at check-in who will get them. I found this to be a cut and dry process, depending on the age and/or number of children. If you run into this situation, don't insist and make sure you have reserved as good seats as possible as a back-up. Also be clear on when and where they will announce the lucky winners.
I find it mega-annoying if I've been refused a bulkhead seat, only to step onboard and see all adults sitting there, who could have easily been placed in exit rows, which have more legroom and where children aren't allowed. I actually wrote and complained and they told me that they were reserved for frequent flyers. Ugh no! Get a clue!! It's bad because then the children get to kick other customers' backsides, who will then be annoyed and swear they'll never fly that airline again. Tell the poor bruised-backsiders "Sorry, we requested bulkhead but this airlines policy is..." If you endure this too, please write and complain as I did. Maybe if enough of us speak out...
Recently, I read one of those (un)helpful tips to nursing mothers to sit by the window for more discretion. Perhaps there is a certain logic, I will admit but if you're on a long flight, I can't imagine anything more inconvenient than having to crawl over two other passengers every time you need to get up. I picture this nursing mother trying to get over two businessmen with a crying baby who's just done a "blow out" diaper, lugging a gear-filled diaper bag. Not a pretty picture. Trust me, for the tiny bit more of discretion you'll get, the inconvenience outweighs it by far. I have breastfed all three of mine in bulkhead and/or aisle seats and I never suffered as a result. More on feeding later on...
Some airlines have bassinets which mount on bulkhead wall. These are wonderful if available but you'll usually have to be in a bulkhead to get one. Ask about what weight limit is, which varies from carrier to carrier. Some bassinets can be suspended from the ceiling for center seats. I have only heard about this and never actually seen one in action. American rules on these are strict and don't be surprised if you can't get one on a U.S. carrier. I also understand that Canadian airlines now require that only sleeping babies can be placed in any bassinet inflight.
A bassinet should not be seen as an option to avoid using a carseat. For safety, again, there is no replacement for a car seat. Sometimes too, you will be requried to remove the baby from the bassinet and hold him or her in turbulence. Never leave an unattended baby asleep in a bassinet. The bassinet has to be stowed for take-off and landing so the child will be either in a seat or on your lap.
Another option for families with at least two children is to book two seats in front and back of each other. This is an obvious choice on smaller aircraft which don't have four across together and any airplane which has two seat rows. Also, this could work if there are at least four or five family members flying together. The advantage is that the most active child can sit directly behind a familiar adult or a baby in a car seat and not kick the seatback of a stranger.
Some parents also like booking the window and aisle seats when there are two, plus a baby together, hoping the center one is left empty. If not, they can simply switch. No one wants the center so swapping isn't usually a problem. Let them choose but point out it might be easier for them to take.
I've also heard of one parent sitting away from the rest and the two switching off to give each other a break. This is often citing as yet another flying "tip". I only once saw this and to be honest, the displaced parent ended up hovering over the other members of the family anyway.
Priority should be on keeping the family together in the configuration that best suits them. The back is bumpier than the front but a few rows' difference in seats will not make a big difference. Some parents love being close to the toilets and galley (kitchen) though. I don't recommend the very back if your children have a tendency to get sick. If you have a choice of two sets of seats with absolutely equal merit, go for the ones further forward but don't let this factor override other more important criteria when it comes to seating.
Car Seat Placement in the Cabin
Having a car seat rarely limits where you can sit in the cabin. Contrary to popular belief, car seats are not required to be at the windows, as long as it doesn't block another passengers' exit to the aisle so they can go in the center including center bulkhead seats. Double check with the airline in case they have their own rules about this but otherwise, there's not a problem sitting there.
If you are flying a U.S. carrier, here's a FAA document to prove this that you might want to print up. Look specifically at page 11 (at the bottom);
http://rgl.faa.gov/Regulatory_and_Guidance_Library/rgAdvisoryCircular.nsf/0/60d70126cf679d5a8625723b007841e7/$FILE/AC%20120-87A.pdf
The real issue is not the fact you have a car seat but that your child is under 15 years old. There are restrictions for both children and those with physical handicaps in the emergency rows and next to emergency exits.
If you are worried if your car seat will or wont fit, measure the bottom and call the airline. Have your exact flight number and they can look up the width of the seat. Most of the time, if the car seat spills into your seat, it isn't a big deal and you can usually adjust your armrests to get it into position.
Special meals
Consider ordering special meals. Don't assume your child will like and eat the standard fare. To respond to complaints about bland airline food, some companies have gone exotic so unless your child is used to sushi, pâté and quinoa, order some sort of special meal when you book. If you reserve on line, call the airline after wards to let them know. Tell the reservation agent the age of the children if you choose childrens' meals but sometimes it works better if the whole family is eating the same thing. Some parents complain that the children's meals are too "greasy" and some airlines have cut them out due to budgetary constraints.
We usually order Kosher, which is usually pretty tame. It has the added advantage of coming in handy individually wrapped containers of which various units can be saved for eating later on. Since we're not religious, I ask them to remove the bulky outer wrapping ahead of time. You don't have to be Jewish to order it but they often arrive from the kitchen frozen so ask the Flight Attendants to check that it's completely dethawed before serving.
Be aware that once you order a special meal, you usually can't change your mind and have a standard meal. If the flight isn't full and/or they are over-catered, maybe they can accomodate this request but don't expect or demand it.
Packing
I really, really do not recommend taking anything onboard except things you'll need for the flight. Garment bags and children are an especially bad mix. If I have to bring evening dresses, they are now laid out carefully on the bottom of my suitcase, only slightly wrinkled but definitely worth not carting them along with my kids. If possible, do not pack delicate clothes with any liquid bottles in the same suitcase. Otherwise, they should be fine. Our "best-woman" and flower girl dresses were even transported transatlantically to my sister's wedding this way and arrived in excellent shape. Dragging bottles of wine with the diapers isn't fun either, even on a non-stop. Remember you have to pass security points and may have to walk a long way. Even something small can easily be lost when you're flying with children.
If you are flying with more than one adult and more than one child, you may want to separate supplies for each child in case you end up sitting apart. If you have two diapered children, this is especially important. You may not need two separate diaper bags, although you could, but pack your carry-ons accordingly.
I wont discuss checked in luggage since that's not that relevant but the one tip I do want to pass on is if you have any battery operated toys. Either turn them off and tape the switch in place or better yet, remove the batteries altogether. It could be a security problem if it turns on during the journey. I put the batteries in a small plastic bag and tape that to the toy so it's easier to put together again after we get home. Also, any toy with a remote control is not allowed to be used onboard. You can bring the toy but put the remote control in the checked lugguage.
The only other tip about checked luggage I want to add is to pack equally sized bags which weigh more or less the same. Pick them up and make sure they are all about the same wieght. This is a general tip but with kids, chances are you will have more gear than previously and don't waste time during check-in paying for oversized bags.
For carry-on items, when my children were still in diapers, I took a backpack, a sling and a diaper bag. I talk about slings and baby carriers later on. I do not take a separate purse but do use a small bag with the valuables around my neck. This means I don't have to dig or pull my backpack off when I have to show tickets and passports. Everything else goes in the backpack, more valuable items stuffed at the very bottom. The backpack is bigger than a standard sized one but small enough to still go under the seat. The backpacks I like come up to my knee when placed on the floor. I like ones with a top handle and lots of side pockets so I can organize things. The diaper bag had everything I needed up to the first part of the flight including the food and first aid items. I use the backpack for the extra diapers, the never-seen-before toys and the change of clothes.
Yes, I bring a complete change for all of us. Not enough room? At least bring a pair of shorts and T-shirt for each of you, just in case. I put everything in plastic and tie them up with lots of rubber bands to squeeze them down to take up less space. Like I mentioned before, I split the diapers into two packets and put one in each the diaper bag and the backpack.
Now that our bottle and diaper days are over, the diaper bag is ditched. I only have the backpack but each child carries his or her own with toys they've chosen. I still take the food and the extra clothes myself. They generally started doing this once they could walk. My youngest at age two, didn't do too well with hers' so decide if your child can manage and wont lose or forget it. I also suggest doing some editing of what goes in these backpacks. Avoid anything security wont like and anything that's noisy. Make sure nothing is so valuable it can't be lost or replaced. I keep new, never-seen toys and books with me until the "unveiling" onboard and then they carry it, giving me more space in my backpack. Security doesn't like wrapped presents but put it in a colorful bag if you want the same effect.
I take my camera in my backpack. Another good tip I received is to take recent pictures in case the child gets lost. This is especially easy with a digital camera. You can simply snap them right before going, in the same clothes, if you have time. If they're not worth keeping, the photos can simply be erased later on. If the unmetionable happens, you have photos of exactly what they look like and exactly what they're wearing to show the authorities.
Before leaving home, empty your bags, especially your diaper bag and to search for any forgotten gels or liquids now banned per the new security restrictions. There is no great risk or fear here. Security will simply confiscate anything they don't want you to take. It's annoying and time-consuming to have them have to remove items so do a ruthless clean-out just for the sake of getting through security with a minimum of hassle.
The new rule has to do with this ziplock bag that is allowed. Read up on it yourself;
http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/index.shtm
Here is an actual grid saying what's allowed and what isn't;
http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/prohibited/permitted-prohibited-items.shtm
I couldn't confirm is whether the liquids have to be in the original containers. I suggest using travel packs, the type they sell in the bins at drug stores, including toothpaste. Bring new, unopened items, rather than for example, diaper cream you've been using, just to be on the safe side. The TSA, for example, doesn't allow half tubes of toothpaste.
I take a cloth bag, the kind they sell in grocery stores as an alternative to plastic and paper. I also have plastic bags for anything nasty but for this purpose, I go for cloth. It fits in my carry-on, wont rip and doesn't make noise. Once onboard, I remove what I need for the next few hours such as wipes, a couple of diapers, perhaps my own toiletries, etc. and put them in this cloth bag, getting the rest of my things out of the way. I used to drag the whole diaper bag into the lavs but that didn't work too well and I looked like I was moving in. Now, I simply throw in what I need for that specific lav excursion (there will be lots of lavatory talk ahead, this features prominately when flying with children). My backpack basically stays in the overhead bin, with the extra cloths, reserve diapers and anything else that will only be needed later on. The diaper bag, by contrast, went down at my feet after take-off (if seated in the bulkheads) or was stowed under the seat in front of me.
If you only have one child, even in diapers and/or your flight isn't too long, you can probably also leave the diaper bag at home. Both a backpack and diaper bag are probably necessary if you have more than one child in diapers and are taking a long flight. For myself, I bring one small makeup bag with my toothbrush, floss, paste, face cleanser, hand lotion, lip balm and lipstick (for right before landing). Even with new travel restrictions, I manage to get all that through but I am prepared to throw any of it away. My hands and lips get really dry on the plane so I was happy to keep those items. I try to remember anti-bacterial wipes, which are good to wipe down the traytables, the taps in the lavs as well as for your and your children's hands. I found that moistened flushable toilet paper is now available in little individual packs, good news for recently-trained children.
I make sure everything, including the children, can be carried in more than one way. My backpack has a handle or can fit in the stroller, the diaper bag can go over my shoulder or, also, on the stroller and the stroller can fit all three children-obviously not at once! Again, the sling could fit both my younger two children for ages so I had a variety of ways to get through an airport. I see to many parents with sleeping children draped over their shoulders. Not a fun way to get where you need to go.
I'm a big zip-lock fan, even before the TSA required them, and this is a classic travel tip and now actually required. Recommended quart-sized bags now even have a little airplane printed on them. Put all liquids together in them (called "medium" in metric-system countries). Whatever medicine, with the appropriate spoon can go together in one ziplock. All the bandaids in another. Even the wipes merit their own. Open my bag and it looks like an advertisement for ziplock. Not only is it easier to find stuff this way, it's cleaner (in case anything spills outside or inside. But the big advantage is in the dreaded security check. When they go through your stuff, they wont actually have to touch any of it and they can see what it is. It's also easier to put it all back together after they're done going through your things.
Another "helpful hint" I read about had to do with bringing large safety pins and making a tent to give the child more "privacy". I have issues with this idea for a number of reasons. First, getting the pins past security. Second, bothering the people around you. What happens if those in front of you want to recline or raise their seat? If the seatbelt sign comes on inflight, the flight attendants have to check to make sure everyone is strapped in. This would be difficult with your child under that thing. The F/A's would probably wake them. Oh, and what about the wonderful inflight air, even staler under the blanket? Also, I don't really see the whole point. My advice, leave the pins at home!
Take snacks and again, don't worry about security. I've had no problems myself and no reports. They are stricter with liquids and will simply take something from you if it's not allowed, which is unlikely. Avoid bring snacks with peanuts in them. Airlines stopped handing out peanuts because of allergies. People with peanut allergies can be so sensitive that even having nuts around them can set off a reaction and this could be a scary thing for a child to witness. Yes, unlikely but who needs to take that risk? Also, peanuts are choking hazards. All the Flight Attendants know the Heimlich maneuvre but none of them need to practice on your child. Grapes are another choking hazard you'll find on flights. If you bring them from home, halve them (even for older toddlers) and look out for them with your meals.
Put luggage tags with your name and addresss on all your bags if possible while still at home. Those small ones the airlines give out are easily ripped off. You also want to write the address on a piece of paper and put that inside the bag.
Strollers/Pushchairs/Buggies
People ask me which stroller I recommend for flying. I always say to bring the stroller you need for the entire trip, not specifically for flying.
Never buy a stroller with the idea of bringing it onboard the aircraft as a carry-on item.
Normally, the stroller does not count against your baggage allowance but again, ask to be sure. Before leaving, remove all "extras" on your stroller like cup holders, toys and even the sunshade, depending on the model. You can either put these items in your checked bags or leave them behind.
Usually, strollers are "gate checked" which means that you will given a tag on check-in but you can keep the stroller with you until you get to the door of the aircraft. Sometimes they give the passenger the tag to put on themselves. Some are a little complicated so don't hesitate to ask them to do it instead. Make sure it goes somewhere it wont be squished or hidden when the stroller is folded.
You will leave your stroller either at the door of the aircraft or at the bottom of the stairs if you do not have a jetway and are boarding outdoors from the tarmac. Never try to bring a stroller on board an aircraft unless instructed to do so by a crew member. Yes, I have occasionally stuffed a very small umbrella stroller into a First or Business Class closet but in economy, when the flight was half empty but this is the exception, not the rule. If this does happen, don't expect it on every flight.
When you leave the stroller, attach the straps and fold it yourself. An excellent tip given to me was to bring a bungee cord and double secure it before leaving it. This can be the same bungee cord you used to secure your car seat to the stroller. Most are only held closed with a small latch, often that is easy to flip open. Your stroller is more likely to be damaged by popping open en route. You don't want some time-pressed baggage handler trying to fold it back up.
The strollers are handled along with wheelchairs so it's supposed to be gentlier to gate-check them. On larger aircraft, passengers disembark from more than one door but strollers and wheelchairs will be placed by one of them. Either listen to the welcome announcement when the plane arrives at the gate or tell a crew member that you have a stroller. If you exit the wrong door, you may have to walk all the way around again.
Metal luggage carts and strollers are not allowed in overhead bins for safety reasons. Even if the crew doesn't notice, please don't even try this. First of all, this will not make you popular with your fellow passengers. Stowage space is at a premium and taking up so much space with an item that you do not need for the flight will not go over well. More importantly, metal objects have come crashing down on passengers' heads, especially during disembarkment. You will be careful because you know it's there but someone two rows back will be in a hurry, grab their bag, which will hook on your stroller and next thing you know, it's come down on some little old lady's head.
If you are connecting, usually the stroller is returned between flights. Ask about this during initial check-in to be sure. Once, when flying alone with a newborn and two toddlers, one airline informed me that they wouldn't return the stroller, forcing me to connect in a major airport without one. I did ask that a supervisor be called and after a bit of negotiation, they only excepted my stroller because of its small size. I also pointed out that stowage wouldn't be a problem since it was a combination car seat which I used onboard. For future flights, I avoided booking with the airline and haven't flown them internationally since.
From my experience, there were no stroller restrictions but always ask and make sure yours' will be allowed. I mostly flew long-haul international on two regularily scheduled airlines and I saw really big strollers brought along, including big double strollers. Regional airlines and low cost carriers may have different rules so ask, also if you are flying in an exotic part of the world. The only issue we had were strollers where the wheels had to be removed but hopefully, these models aren't as common as they used to be. Organize what to do if you have one of these by bringing a bag that can be attached with a bungee cord to your stroller and gate check the whole package.
Potty training and flying with the recently/almost trained
First, I recommend giving yourself a break from potty training while you're travelling. In fact, I've put it entirely off because of a trip. Sometimes, the change in environment recharges a child to make progress with this project but that happens once we arrive, not usually en route. You want to work with your child and while flying, you probably can't give it the time and attention it demands.
Many parents wonder about diapers vs. underware, flying and their recently-trained child. This obviously depends on the child but here are a few facts to guide you. To start with, yes, I have put a recently-trained child back into diapers just for the trip and no, it didn't set us back ages in the process. Children seem to understand this is a "special situation" and will cooperate as long as it's specifically for the flight and not for the entire time they're away from home.
Your child might resist going back to diapers when you first suggest this. If they are not night trained, you will to have some sort of "back-up" in case they fall asleep en route. Don't have your child wet him or herself during an inflight nap, only to discover this while landing and when all the restrooms are busy or you're no longer allowed to use them.
How do you know whether it's worth the risk? First, will your child go if prompted? This means, if you can say "Let's use these toilets here because we might not be able to for awhile..." and your child cooperates, you migh be able to let them go without diapers. If you hear "I don't need to" almost every time, it would be better to be prepareed. You want to avoid being in line for check-in, security or about to board and have your little one announce his needs and the fact they have to be attended to "now".
There are also some compromises. You might want think about padded underware or cloth pull-ups (aka "waterproof pants") to only be used only for the trip.
There are also tiny portable potties you can buy but they shouldn't be needed. Usually when flying, if there's the time to go, you can find somewhere to do so. It's more a question of when, not where. The biggest hurdle is time. Facilities are usually available in airports and on board airplanes. You could be put in the uncomfortable position of having to discard the plastic bag of what your child has just "produced". It's light and easy to bring but only useful if your child objects to large toilets. Bring it into the toilets where you can dispose of it immediately.
Airplane toilets are very different than those found on the ground. You may also be headed somewhere with different concepts of plumbing as well. You may want to psychologically prepare your child to using a very different looking commode in a much smaller space.
Also, some of the newer aircraft have very noisy johns. This is because they use an air suction system, which makes for pleasanter smelling lavs but could be potientially terrifying for a newly trained child. If you are wondering what you are "faced" with, these have a grey interior and are deeper than the old blue-swirling-water johns. When your child is done, put the lid down, have them wash their hands, exit the child from the cubical first and as a last gesture, lean back in and hit the flush. They may be more accepting if they hear it flushing before going in themselves (i.e. waiting in line). Point it out to them and it may not come as a surprise.
Flying with a newborn
Most airlines stipulate that a child must be at least a week old. Most airlines will waive any restrictions if you have a note from a doctor saying your child is able to fly.
There are no special concerns about newborns. In some ways, they are more protected than older babies since they wont be crawling around touching things or getting hurt. If the child is breastfed, the baby has the mother's immunities.
Newborns are usually good fliers and spent most of the time sleeping. Most babies I saw flying for pleasure were at least eight weeks old. Smaller babies were usually flying for more pressing reasons, for example, after being adopted or moving.
Consider your own needs, even if your baby is in perfect health and the delivery went well. Just putting a trip off by a week or two can make the journey so much easier.
You do want to be careful of the angle of the car seat when installing because newborns have porportionally large heads and if held at the wrong angle, can restrict or even cut off the oxygen supply. Limit transporting the baby in a car seat as much as possible and be sure to have a good baby carrier.
The biggest stumbling block for international travel may be getting the passport on time. Get the papers before the birth and make sure to turn them in and/or schedule the interterview (depending on the requirements of your country) as soon as you can after the birth. Consider paying extra for expediated delivery.
Electronical items
Before leaving home, make sure anything electonical is fully charged. It's rare that these items can be recharged onboard, although this is possible on the ground while waiting for a connection. If you are flying internationally, make sure you have a converter for whatever type of plug is at both your destination and your layover location. For example, if you are going from Europe to Australia and stopping in U.S., make sure you bring the plug converter for both North America and Australia. You usually don't need a transformer even if they electricity is different.
Portable DVD players are popular. Because they are expensive, I'm hesitant to recommend them. I waited until my youngest was 3 1/2 before I used one for the first time. I imagined my children fighting over it, dropping it, spilling drinks on it, etc. I honestly don't think they're necessary for any flight three hours or less. Very young children aren't good about wearing the headphones. My children prefer the kind that have a stiff band over their head. The small ones that stuff in the ear don't work very well with children. Experiement at home to see if your child will wear the head phones for extended periods. Another option is having the child watch the imagines without sound. Even if you turn the sound down low, this will annoy neighboring passengers so make it clear this that the headphones must be used on the airplane. You may want to never play the sound out loud so that your child is not aware that the sound can be played through the speakers at all.
A portable computer can serve the same purpose. It's heavier than a DVD player and you may have conflict if an adult is planning to work on something while the child is clammering for Barney. The battery life too, isn't usually good on them but check your equipment before deciding either/or to bring.
If flying with a toddler, look for a feature in your DVD player that folds the controls away from fiddly fingers so that they only can see the screen. For long flights, get one with a long battery life, at least 5 hours. In the store, they explained to me that it was possible to order a second battery so that they could be exchanged. I decided this was too complicated and opted for a long-term battery instead. I'm mentioning this as a possible option but I can't speak from experience. Either way, learn to turn the light down to save battery time and don't be surprised if the battery doesn't last as long as it says, just like car milage...
I bring a brand new video they have never seen before. This once backfired when it turned out to be too scary so try to go for a sure winner, and not make my mistake.
Our DVD player has plugs for only two headphones so I had to buy an adapter allowing a third (although it's rare all three watch together). Check how many plugs you have and even if it's unlikely all your children will watch at once, be prepared for a bored school child to watch a "baby" video simply out of boardom. Plug adapters are not expensive and easy to bring, as are extra headphones, a good idea if one gets stepped on inflight. The headphones the airlines for their inflight entertainment use are usually incompatable with personal electronical products.
Before leaving, we talk about the fact that while we're watching the video, we try not to laugh out loud or to poke the other and make comments. We also don't sing along to the songs. We bring sippy cups so that there are no "open" drinks sitting on wobbly tray tables with the portable DVD player. A sports bottle can work if sippy cups are no longer used in your household. All rules are discussed before each and every flight. I don't assume they remember every rule for each journey.
For international travel, a portable DVD player or computer is a good idea if you are going somewhere that the DVD's are "zoned" differently. They can still watch their favorites from home while away, without having to de-zone anything. If you're going somewhere with a different language, television options may be limited and they can still watch their videos instead. You may want to explain that they have to watch their videos from home only on the machine you brought and not on your hosts' DVD player. They're also useful for the car, if you have any long journeys planned while away.
Remember too, that anything with a remote control wont be allowed onboard. Those robots, cyber dogs and dinasaurs are delicate and my son wasn't the only one with one tucked under his arm in the airport. The remotes were all in the checked bags. Many have of these toys have a switch which makes them move automatically. Not as fun as having the remote but they still were able to play with it onboard (once the seatbelt sign is off).
If your child asks why all electronical products have to be turned off for take-off and landing, here is a simple explanation. The only problematic electronical items are actually those which draw in outside signals. Originally, when I started flying, we were told to look out for specific products. Well, these items became more and more sophisticated and complex, taking on more and more tasks.Most Flight Attendants do not have Master's degrees in electronical engineering and basically, we didn't have time to analysize each and every one. Basically, simply for practical reasons, it's just simplier to ban all products during take-off and landing. Assure them that it's not for very long.
If your child has a cell phone, double check that these are shut off because it could ring inflight. Some have game options or other acitivities but I would recommend that they remain off for the duration of the flight. Don't have an uncomfortable incident onboard if a Flight Attendant sees it being used. Messaging is also banned inflight.
For gameboys, DS machines and other electronical games, make sure your children shut them off to save battery life when not used and again, that it's clear that they are to be played silently, or with headphones onboard. A little guessing game machine keeps my son occupied for ages. Leave the really small electronical toys behind, since many don't have the option to turn off the sound and changing batteries is problematic. So many electronic gizmos out there, take a look and see if something will intrigue your little person, if you have no practical or moral objections to them.
Inflight toys and ways to occupy small children
Please only bring silent toys. Even a slight beep or peep can drive your fellow passengers nuts on a long haul flight. Don't risk their wrath. Toys from a certain fast-food chain are perticularily evil.
Some toys are not allowed in the cabin. No toys with remote controls are allowed to be brought on board. The toy itself can be brought onboard but I recommend putting the remote in the checked bags. There is also the obvious rule against any toy that looks like a weapon. No toy can contain more than 3 oz. of water...but on a practical note, I wouldn't recommend bringing any toy with any water at all onboard.
Here are toys which are simply bad ideas to bring on board. Anything that has multiple parts, of which all are needed for it to be played/function, anything delicate and/or valuable.
For long flights, I bring a new toy as a present for each. I keep them with me until we're on board (don't put them in the child's backpack because they're sure to find it ahead of time). When my son was small, he loved anything with wheels. I'd bring a package of small cars, trucks or airplanes. Plastic animals were also winners with my toddlers. When the girls got older, and past that magical age 3 when it seems all toys are "allowed", those small plastic dolls with rubber clothes kept them occupied. All three of them love small animals.
I like magazines too. In Europe, they usually come with a toy. They usually have a story, something to color and/or make.
Game books, including cross word puzzels were fun even before they could read. They basically only need the alphabet and Sudoku is mastered quite early too.
Some people do really creative things with onboard toys. Think about packaging them up and/or wrapping them in a special way to add to the thrill. Some parents hide a few beforehand and instead of buying new stuff, pull out the tried-and-true winners once onboard. On the same principal, you can hit a few consignment stores for "new" toys.
Probably the simpliest winner is to bring is a pack of crayons (get the chunky kind for smaller children) and some paper. Just paper works but feel free to bring coloring books too. These fit easily into a carry-on bag and really keeps them occupied for ages. Don't go overboard. Keep it simple and easy. Don't bring a truckload of stuff they'll hardly notice and you'll have to lug around.
If your child is old enough to enjoy checkers or chess, please take the kind of miniture games which use either magnets or pieces which plug into the board. Bring extra pieces if possible.
Books are welcome on board. No one should mind you reading quietly to your child in your seats. I especially like those flat, colorful, cheap books sold in U.S. drugstores. I also like the coloring books with a stroy. You can read him or her the story and then let them color the pictures before or after.
My oragami repatoire is actually very limited but it was amazing how many paper cranes and frogs could keep my children occupied. Oragami papers is usually inexpensive and easy to pack. Bring a book or print up instructions off the net and learn it together on board. Keep any paper airplanes from taking flight but the frogs hop nicely accross tray tables...
Dressing for Flying
I don't recommend sandals for anyone, big or little no matter how hot it is or will be at your destination. If connecting, you might want to avoid high-top laced shoes since you might have to remove them a couple of times in security, although I don't think it necessary to pick your footwear specifically for this purpose. I bring socks to wear onboard and remove all of our shoes as soon as we're airborne (not before take-off in case of an emergency evecuation). You can also bring slippers. Those baby shoes made completely out of leather work great. If not in a bulkhead, shoeless feet will have less potiential to kick the seats in front of you.
I prefer to dress my toddler girls in leggings, even in summer. I put my boy in light, loose pants. Avoid white and go for patterns. Often it's advised to dress children in bright colors, to be detected better in a crowd. Don't feel the need to dress for the weather either for your departure or detination. The airports and aircrafts will be climate-controlled anyway. Put the appropriate gear at the top of the luggage if you're flying into an entirely different climate and throw it on when you get there.
If your baby doesn't crawl yet, consider putting him or her in a full sleepsuit, preferably with feet out of a light material. Lots of babies travel that way and no one will think "Why is that kid still in pajamas?" If it bothers you that your child is garbed in sleepware for travel, or if the trip to or from the airport is hot, change inflight. Also bring a bonnet, even in summer, especially if your baby is bald. It can get a little chilly onboard. A warm cabin makes people dehydrated, sick and affects air quality so it's kept a little cool onboard on purpose. If it feels outright cold, tell a flight attendant. It used to be possible to adjust those eyeball things above your seat if you're flying on an aircraft which still has those. But dress the whole family in layers so that they're comfortable at all points in your journey.
I always bring a bottle of waters or a sippy cups for my children. Bring them empty or be prepared to dump the contents in security. I don't depend on getting enough water onboard and I'm usually dying a thirst during the wait at the gate. Please be clear, especially with bottles, they do NOT have an unlimited supply of bottled water onboard. We used to run out at the end of the first service when I was working. Don't depend entirely on getting bottled water the whole flight for your child. With the new travel restrictions, water too might be confiscated in security. Water can be purchased now once past the checkpoint.
Unfortunately, I'm getting mixed reports on this subject. If you're flying with a baby and normal baby bottles, there doesn't seem to be a problem with formula and water. Security is fine with letting that pass. Older kids are posing more of a problem with their various drinking needs. Sometimes cartons and boxes of milk and juice are allowed, other times not. Some children are being forced to drink down their drinks in front of security while others are left alone. Logically, if the liquid is drinkable, it's not dangerous.
What was allowed out, may not be allowed back, especially when flying internationally. Try to get the skinny on the airport where you will be flying from and be aware that international and domestic might operate differently.
I still recommend bringing sippy cups for practical purposes to avoid spilling onboard and to transport whatever liquid you can. When the drink cart rolls around, I ask the F/A's to fill those up, instead of giving them open cups. Keep using them for as long as the child is willing to drink from them! Also, those disposable kinds work well too as well as the sport-style bottle with spouts that can be pulled up. These are more acceptable options for older children.
Baby Carriers
Probably the best-kept secret to making flying, traveling and quite frankly, parenting easier is to have a good baby carrier. The selection today is huge and asking someone what their favorite carrier is, is like asking them their favorite toothbrush or perfume. A good carrier by definiton should go to age 2 or 3. It's highly personel but there are some features that make flying specifically much eaiser.
The whole subject of carriers is well covered on the internet. These are two good sites which have comparision charts and products from a variety of companies.
http://peppermint.com
http://kangarookorner.com
Other "real life" resources include local La Leche groups or other breastfeeding support organizations. I found some once at a women's health clinic. There are also "baby wearing" organizations offering support and information on this subject. It's a nice luxury to touch and try on the products. There are many work-at-home parents producing them at reasonable prices if you are looking for something unique and want to support a good cause.
Here is an overview of your choices;
Slings-I think they're ideal for flying and what I used. A good sling can also serve as a baby changer, sun shade, a breastfeeding cover-up and a blanket. They're easy to take off and on. Some have padding along the sides which makes them easier on bigger babies and toddlers (doesn't cut into their legs) but makes the sling more bulky. Unpadded slings fit well into backpacks. Some parents don't like the one-shoulder carry but it's possible to shift to the other shoulder. There is also a definite learning curve so you need to be comfortable with its use long before traveling. I could slide a sleeping child easily between a car seat, stroller and bassinet, leaving it behind as a blanket.
Pouches-Similar to slings but instead of rings, they are basically just tubes. Similar advantages and also one-shouldered, the fit is very important. Some are adjustable and others sized to order. The "look" appeals to some more than a sling and they are slightly easier to "master".
Wraps-I loved my wrap and found it more comfortable to wear but I didn't use mine for flying. It was more complicated to take-off and on. Wraps are simple, just a long piece of material but there's definitely a learning curve so it's not the product to buy two days before you fly. If this is what you use and you want to take it flying, by all means do so but be really comfortable with it before approaching any aircraft.
Front packs-These are dire and I see far too many parents wearing their children this way. They tend to be expensive and heavily marketed. The problem is that the child is held in one rigid position (facing forward or backwards), basically hanging by its crotch. The weight is hung off the parents' shoulders making these carriers very uncomfortable quickly. They often have many fiddly straps, snaps and buttons, making transferring the child into a car seat, stroller or bassinet very difficult. Breastfeeding is virtually impossible in this and when it can be managed, isn't very descreet. I had one of these with my first child and it was in the closet by the time he was six months old. I wish I had been warned what a poor value they were!
Mei Tai's, Ergo, Becco and other carriers with straps- These are much more logical options to front packs. They look similar but the way they hold the child is entirely different and much more comfortable. Most last until at least age two and can carry an older child on the back too. Babies can still sleep in them and they can be used for breastfeeding. I have no direct experience with them
Backpacks-If you have a older baby or toddler, are not flying very far and need the backpack at your destination, this might be a practical option. They are difficult to put on and take-off. The child can't sleep in them very well and when not in use, they tend to be bulky and hard to put away. I did opt for this once when visiting a big city where it was going to be needed. I recommend removing the sunshade if possible. It's much easier to have the kind that can stand on their own on the ground, than those you have to balance on your knee while putting on, like what I had. Some even have wheels and the option of being pulled. This could then be used instead of a stroller.
Just as a reminder, if your child is flying in your lap, never have him or her attached to you in any way. They are safer loose in your lap. Many of these carriers easily detach from the back. As a Flight Attendant, I simply had the parent lean slightly forward and I was able to unhook or unsnap the carrier. With a sling, I could simply loosen it and flip the back part over my head. It's not necessary to completely remove it. For an emergency evacuation, you would not need it and seated for take-off, it's not necessary to have them attached to you anyway.
Organizing Leaving and Arriving
These are somewhat general tips but when you fly with children, you have to be extra-organized. A slight oversight could cause a lot of avoidable inconveniences which are annoying when you're alone, but unbearable with your offspring.
A very unhelpful flying tip I've read is to not let a child sleep on the way to the airport. We live two hours from the closest major airport so trying to manage that with my own kids would be impossible. Having a cranky toddler during check-in, getting through security and boarding sounds like a nightmare, not to mention if there's a delay. I honestly can't see the harm in a quick sleep in the car. In my opinion, this is simply bad advice, if you read it elsewhere. For the record, I let mine sleep and I have never had a problem getting them to snooze after take-off. Children can get over-stimulated and then not sleep because of all the excitement so the whole plan could backfire anyway.
If someone is dropping you off at the airport, if at all possible, have them park and come inside with you. They can help watch your children during check-in and if they can still until the flight actually leaves, this is a good idea in case of a cancellation. Have everyone bring cell phones, fully charged before leaving for the airport, and make sure you have each others' numbers.
Before you leave, if you are being met at the airport at your destination, give the person meeting you your entire itinerary, not just the last flight they'll be meeting. Instruct them to check either the internet or call the airline's reservation number before leaving for the airport to make sure that all flights were on time.
If you are flying standby, give them the information about the flight that you'll be trying for first. The code I used to use was if I did't call, that meant that I did make the flight, not the opposite. No news is good news. Many times, standby passengers are handed boarding pass and shoved onboard last minute. You wont have time even to call or SMS from your cell phone. By contrast, if you weren't successful the first time, you probably will have time to call and give the details of the next flight you'll be trying to get on.
If calling poses a problem because of time differences, organize this ahead of time. There are a number of solutions including having them turn their ringer off or having you call a cell phone turned off for the night. You leave a message and they check as soon as they're up. You could even call a "third party" who stay up later/get up earlier than the picker-upper, who would then call at a more appropriate time. Usually, if there is a that much of a time difference, the flight will be long enough to sort something out. If there is any change of plans, especially when flying standby, remember that airlines wont say what flight you're on for security reasons.
I've seen a lot of upset passengers onboard after delays and problems with their journeys. These kinds of problems are inconvenient anyway but that much worse if you're stuck at the airport with cranky, hungry, tired children (when you're also cranky, tired and hungry) while waiting because someone didn't get the information they should have about your flight.
If you are planning to rent a car at your destination, you may want to consider renting the next day instead of right away. Either have a car/limo arranged to meet you or grab a taxi instead, especially after a long flight. Getting to the car rental place, which might involve a long walk and/or shuttle bus, dealing with the paperwork, etc. with kids might not be too pleasant. It's probably worth the extra money, plus it might save you a days' rental on the car anyway. With two adults, one can go get the rental the next day while the other stays at the hotel with the children. Consider how much driving will you really be doing the first day after your trip anyway. The only sight that you and your children will intially want to see, may be your beds.
Preparing Children
Once a child is aware of the experience, around ages two or three, it's best to discuss it ahead of time but in a very non-challant manner. Actually, children usually love to fly and it's rare that they're scared. It's an adventure for them.
There are some good children's books on this subject. I actually recommend getting them from the library, unless you're sure you'll use them again.
What can be scary for children is going through security. Even my veteran flyers don't like this part. Here is a good page to read on the subject from the TSA website. Look at it even if you'are not flying a U.S. company;
http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/children/index.shtm
Discuss the fact that they will have to put all their belonging on the X-ray machine belt, have to walk through an arch and perhaps take off their shoes too. Make it clear that they will not have to separate from you but will have to go through the metal dectector by themselves. I walk through first and then coax my little one to follow. Tell them that you will be doing the same.
Some flying tips say to go through the whole process step-by-step. This might be "over-kill", especially if your child has flown before. Usually, you have a few weeks, if not months before leaving. Point out airplanes in the sky, airports, when you pass them and any airplane images you see on T.V. Avoid any movies with scary airplane scenes. Most of these are so full of inaccuricies that we airline personel even find them amusing. Clueless Flight Attendants, terrorists able to bring an entire army's arsenal abord and other completely absurd scenes. Even if you point out such absurdities, you child will not necessary take that information on board.
Getting and Accepting Help
Generally, the airlines do not offer assistence to families with small children. I used to call and ask anyway but my request was almost always refused. The truth is that staffing can be tight and passengers with mobility issues are priority. You may say that you only need help for a few minutes but sometimes just positioning personel is the stumbling block. They may be needed for another flight that is arriving right after yours'.
Sometimes I was able to "piggy back" a family if there was a handicapped person being helped. Some airports use electric cars and if there is a little extra room, they can squeeze in a mother and her baby if going the same direction.
But generally, you have to plan on not getting any help. We used to help families getting off the aircraft, especailly if they disembarked last, but often, we had to then go to a different part of the airport and couldn't continue with them. Other passengers might offer assistence. By all means, take them up on the offer but use common sense. Never leave them alone with your children or let them take them anywhere. You may find that your usually outgoing child will be a bit more clingy so don't expect them to go to anyone else or even take a stranger's hand. Have the Good Samaritan push a cart or carry a bag while you stay next to them. Be especially wary if you have not passed security and are in the "landside" area of the airport. This is a public area but once past security, the only people allowed are either employees or other passengers. Also, it's harder to leave that area since it's "sealed". You may be more comfortable accepting help while in this section of the airport while declining it entirely in the puclic "landside" area.
The most likely time when I both most need help and when it's more likely to be offered is at baggage claim when I'm torn between watching my children and watching out for when my bags come off the belt. Sometimes my children end up playing with someone elses' and they offer to watch all of them while I drag back each bag.
Air Sickness
People don't get sick very often during flights. It happens but itn't that common even with children. The affected ages tend to be from around 3 or 4 to about 8. No guarentee that children outside those ages wont get sick but this tends to be the most common and I can't say exactly why. Small babies almost seem to be immune.
I was very sensitive as a child and had a terrible time on long car trips. I have been flying since I was 8 weeks old and never remember being ill on the plane. My children are also unsurprisingly very prone to motion sickness. They have thrown up on the way to the airport and then been fine on the flight. I have flown with the children on short haul flights while my husband took the car so we could save time and avoid having this problem. Yes, we actually fly to avoid motion sickness.
If your child has not flown before and has a history of motion sickness, you are not necessarily going to have an unpleasant experience.I recommend bringing wipes, a change of clothes and an empty plastic bag, which works better for children than those small paper bags the airlines put in the seat pocket. Watch your child on the ground, as the plane is taxing to and away from the gate. At larger airports, this can be quite long and similar to a car ride.
1. Try to sit your child by a window.
2. Try to sit as far forward as possible (but the window should override if you have to choose between the two)
3. If you want to use medication to prevent this, make sure it's one you have tried previously with no ill side affects or allergic reactions. All medications are stronger at altitude and most of these medicines have to be given before the onset of nausea. Read the instructions carefully.
4. Make sure your child eats and drinks before leaving for the airport.
5. Make sure your child drinks and make sure they don't get dehydrated. Please note that overdrinking may not help anymore but could hurt. Just make sure they drink when they're thirsty.
6. A good night's sleep is helpful. I have no idea why though.
7. For take-off and landing, have your child sit calmly, facing forward and remind them to take deep breaths (this is very subjective so don't stress it and have them simply look forward).
8. If turbulence hits, have your child stop reading and again face forward.
9. Don't let your child lead down, for example to take off shoes or dig in a bag during take-off, landing and turbulence. If the child is old enough to understand.
10. If there are problems landing at your destination (like fog or too much traffic), your flight may be put in a "holding pattern" where it turns around above the airport until it's clear to land. This can be long, an hour or more and this is especially difficult for those prone to motion sickness of all ages. The crew will prepare the cabin for landing and they will announce this. Be very careful if your flight is put into a holding pattern and just make sure you're prepared.Looking out the window and breathing can help.
11. Be aware that a too-warm cabin can make people sick. It doesn't need to be artic-cold but if you're sweating in flight, tell a crew member and see if the temperature can be turned down. It is normal that the cabin feels warm on the ground and this usually can't be avoided.
If you are tempted to use medication to make your child sleep on a long flight, I would advise against this because the child might wake up dehydrated and confused and more prone to be ill.
If your child doesn't keep things down inflight, get the help of a Flight Attendant as soon as possible. Don't be surprised if they wont touch anything directly. If they do, some hygenic rules prevent them from further participating in the meal service. They often do have access to chemicals and products which can make the task easier and can at least stand by and help out. On some aircraft, it's possible to adjust the air system to clear any smell. Airplane air is very dry so anything you clean will probably dry quickly. The seat cushions come up so you can pull them up to better clean or even get another one, if available. Let a crew member help out.
The part of the flight when most kids get sick is right before landing. This is actually good news since the flight is almost over and you're almost off the aircraft. Clean it up best you can but don't worry about finding a trash bin. The cleaners are quickly onboard after the passengers exist. They also have to dispose of any "bodily fluids" differently so don't risk putting anything in the wrong container. It's better for your child to get him or her on to solid ground as soon as possible.
Sleeping Medications for Children
As a Flight Attendant, I saw this many, many times. Usually it worked. Twice it went terribly wrong and the child had the opposite reaction. They went completely wired onboard and it was an unpleasant experience for everyone.
I fly with my own kids between Europe and California about every six months and it's 11 1/2 hours, I'm usually alone, and I've never used any sort of medication to get them to sleep.Antihistimine reactions are common in my family so I don't risk giving them to my kids. Drug allergies and sensitivties are common with children.
A few times, I will admit, I was tempted. Two of mine are very active, not hyper, but just children who like to move. Once, my 20 month old son slept 20 minutes of that flight. I was pregnant at the time and exausted when I arrived. Keeping your children in a drug-induced sleep through, isn't the only way to survive a long flight.
First, you need to talk to your doctor. Second, you need to try it at home first to make sure they don't have any allergic reactions. You want to be able to get to the ER, like my parents had to when they gave me Benedryl when I was seven years old. Even though my dad was a doctor and my mom a nurse, they couldn't find my pulse...imagine if we had been in the air! Even though these are OTC drugs, they aren't harmless. Just because they didn't have an adverse affect the first time doesn't guarentee they wont have a bad reaction the next time.
It's probably not needed for a baby under 7 or 8 months old and I don't think it's necessary for 3 or 4 year old, an age when they can occupy themselves in their seats better.
Remember that all meds are stronger at altitude. You know how that glass of wine goes to your head a bit faster when you're flying? Most medical emergencies I saw were because of this. It's unlikely that your small child is already on regular medications for other conditions but you need to be informed of any complications with drug combinations.
Do not give it before take-off in case of an emergency, as unlikely as that is. I would also give the child the opportunity to have something to eat on a long flight and have your child awake before landing. They may wake up dehydrated and disorientated so be prepared to take care of them, which would be difficult as the plane is in the middle of touching down. It's also better for their ears if they are awake for the top of descent (see next section).
Many people are judgemental about doing this. You may want to be descreet and not discuss it openly around other passengers. I think flying with little ones can be tough and I belive strongly in doing what works for your family. Just be responsible about it.
Ears and Altitude
It's actually a myth that children need to suck on something for take-off and landing. I see this "tip" in almost every article on this subject and I think it's a case that it's repeated so often that everyone believes it (Emperor's New Clothes, anyone?) Some go into minute detail on what you're supposed to do to make them swallow during those times, what to give them, rub their throats, make them drink, etc.
Is this bad advice? Not usually. Where is the harm in giving your child a drink or some gum during those times? Nothing...except take-off is when a lot of children do nodd off. Panicked parents wake their children from much-need shut-eye to save their ears from exploding. Also, parents will pull their babies safely snuggled in car seats so that a breast or bottle can be shoved in their mouth. These are the two most critical points of the flight, safety-wise so please keep your child safely in his or her seat...and please just let them sleep!
If a small baby falls asleep and wakes up to uncomfortable pressure, he or she will cry, which is the best way to clear ears. I've done this as an adult when my ears were still blocked hours after working a flight, a desperate measure when you live in an apartment.
I rarely saw children or adults having problems with their ears in my 13 years as a Flight Attendant. With all the flights I've done with my own children, I have never, ever done anything special for their ears during take-offs and landings and even though my oldest had a history of ear infections, we have never had any tears or discomfort.
ENT specialists simply recommend that the child is awake for landing;
http://www.entcda.com/AAOHNSF/earsandaltitude.htm
The delicate time is not during take-off or landing/touchdown but at the top of descent. Be very careful as most articles on flying are written by parents who usually have never worked in the industry and misuse airline terms. This is usually 40 minutes to an hour before landing and everyone's ears have to reverse internal pressurization. You can feel this yourself. I can confirm that when I worked, if any passengers had ear problems, this was the time, and I actually saw more adults suffering than children.
Airplanes also don't consistently fly at the same height. For a number of reasons, traffic, weather, etc. on a longer flight, you may feel the aircraft changing cruising altitude while in the air. Usually, you can feel this both with the aircraft's movements and with your own ears. Again, don't panick and don't worry about their ears if this happens either.
To avoid ear issues is to take your little one to the doctor a few days before flying. Just schedule a "well-baby" visit to coincide with your trip or arrange a quick visit for an older child. My son was good at getting symptomless ear infections. Don't skip doing this because your child hasn't recently had a cold and/or they don't have symptoms and assume their ears are fine. Yes, antibiotics will take affect before you leave so it will not result in a cancellation of your trip even if there is a problem. The doctor will look in your child's ears and make sure they're clear and infection-free. Healthy ears can handle pressurization changes.
Flying with an ear infection can be very, very painful and just giving them some gum or a drink wont prevent it from happening. Permanate ear damage can result and it wasn't because the child was or wasn't made to "suck" during "take-off" and "landing"!
Remember too that small babies often cry during boarding. This is a disruptive time and children pick up on the stressful atmosphere. They usually settle down once everyone's seated. The airplane is often hot because the air conditioning system doesn't work at full force until the plane is airborne. You may have had problems with seating, security or it's simply been a long day with connections and travel to the airport. Don't be discourged and think "We're off to a bad start". If they're fussy and/or crying, this is normal.
My baby was crying once during this time and a Flight Attendant came up to me to tell me that it was "her ears". We were still on the ground!
Check-in
First, a quick explanation on airport organization. The check-in area called "landside" as opposed to "airside", or once you get through security. You remain in "airside" until you leave the baggage area or Customs, if flying internationally. Landside is a totally public area. Children usually have energy at this point of the adventure and often want to run while you are stuck sitting in line.
I really suggest bringing someone to the airport and have them stick around and help you watch the children. Airport parking is expensive, especially the temporary lots but this is not the time to skimp on this expense. Have them occupy the children while you wait in line or trade this duty off between the adults. Make sure they rejoin you at the desk when it's your turn because especially for international travel, the agent will want to verify all your travel documents.
Be careful if you are alone and flying with your little ones when help is offered. Do not let anyone "landside" ever stay alone with your child(ren). By all means, accept help but direct the Good Samaratin to your bags and be with them. Most people are genuine but don't take chances.
Try to put off any restroom stops until you're past security, especially if you're alone with your children.
I understand that curbside check-in still exists in some places. Since I don't have experience with this, although I remember it as a child and remember my mother was able to do this once, I do understand it can be great for families with children. Just becareful of the traffic outside while handing over your bags. This is one of the first casualties when stricter security levels are brought into force so don't assume this service will always be in effect.
Another "helpful" tip that I read on the internet advised parents to not let their child sleep on the way to the airport. Obviously, they don't live two hours away like we do but...having a cranky toddler while trying to check-in, getting through security and boarding sounds like a nightmare, and just plain bad advice! For the record, I let mine sleep and I have never had a problem getting them to snooze after take-off. Young babies and kids can get over-stimulated and then not sleep because of all the excitement. You don't even need to know what happens if a sleep-deprived child arrives at the airport only to face a delay...
But a good tip I read somewhere else had to do with older kids. Some of our offspring like to make running commentaries on what they're seeing, other people, etc. This can be amusing in the car, or at home, but in this situation, there will be plenty who will be listening in earshot. This is especially important for bilingual families like ours'. Your kids might be used to no one else understanding whatever you speak at home but if you're flying to that country, the whole plane might be listening in when your offspring express their opinions on their fellow travellers. In any language, if you know your child has a habit of "calling it like they see it", perhaps have a talk beforehand.
Go early. Shoot for a half-hour more than they recommend. This helps cut down on the wait, which is especially grim with children. People show up bam the minute they've been told. Try to go for when the check in desk opens. This might mean you go straight to the counter (unless you're flying charter!). I've finished checking in to see a huge line behind me.
If you have any seat "issues", either you don't have assignments or you have requested a change, try to get that sorted at check-in right away. If it's still unresolved and you might get new boarding passes at the gate, ask exactly when you would be called to the desk at boarding. Ask also if you have to line up there (probably not but be sure). Be clear about both the procedure and the timing so you can organize yourself and your kids, i.e. "We have half an hour to sit and relax..."
In winter, while checking in, I take the coats and jackets and put them together at the top of one of the suitcases. On arrival, I can just pull them out and don't have to fiddle with them during the flight. Ask if you have to board from outside before deciding whether keeping the jackets is a better idea. I was also scolded for giving this tip by people who, say, have to connect through Chicago or those who swear they make good blankets (remember that a lot of domestic flights no longer supply blankets, especially during the day). I can see missing a connection and having to stay in a local hotel, which happened to me once pre-baby where I had to wait for the bus in Chicago, in winter, so this is definately access-your-own-situation tip!
When you check in, ask if they can 'block' the seat next to you to give you some more space, especially if you don't have a seat for your lap baby. Bring the carseat to the aircraft, even if you haven't booked a seat and the carseat can be gate-checked if they can't manage an empty place beside you. They'll also only use it if they really need it and very likely if someone is it'll be one of us airline employees travelling on a really reduced-fare ticket.
Getting Car Seats Through Airports
If you have an infant bucket-style seat, it may fit in the travel system you already have. You can take the whole contraption to the door of the plane and gate-check the stroller, while bringing the car seat on board.
If yours' is not part of a travel system, you can use a stroller frame. Something like this (please note that I am not promoting any of these sites. They are all simply examples to show you);
http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=167395&catid=110448&aid=335933&aparam=graco_snugrider_stroller&CAID=94277ef3-f710-4efa-9c68-95b932c2dace
This can be gate-checked just like a stroller.
Most infant carriers do not need the base for installing in an aircraft but check your owner's manual to be sure of this (there are one or two exceptions). You can either carefully pack it in your checked bags or a better option might be to leave it at home. If you'll only be gone a short time and/or you wont be in the car much, the inconvenience of hauling the base around might override the inconvenience of installing the seat in the car each time. Be sure you are comfortable with the seatbelt installation before leaving, either way.
Another option, expensive but convenient, if you fly a lot, is the combined car seat/stroller. I recieved this as a second baby gift;
http://www.lillygold.com/
I actually loved it but you have to really use it to justify the pricetag. It was great for other kinds of travel. When we drove on vacation, we didn't have to pack a stroller. I used it a lot in cabs. I was also able to convince some foreign airlines to let me bring it onboard since it collapses (not a problem on U.S. companies since it's FAA approved).
I could also use the tether when installing it rearfacing in the car.
There are some drawbacks;
-The price. At $200, it is definitely a luxury baby travel product.
-The top shoulder slots are very low, as is the back of the seat. Even though officially, it goes to 40lbs/18 kilos, your child will probably outgrow it a lot sooner.
-Some parents don't like the fact it's so low to the ground.
-Some car seat technicians are not happy with the install in certain cars.
-The basket is very small and you can't hang things off the handles very well.
-The back is not adjustable.
To sum it up, this should not be purchased in lieu of either a good stroller or car seat. Consider this if you either will really use it and travel a lot or simply, have money to burn!
For "convertible" seats, or those seats that sit the child upright and go to 40lbs/18kilos or beyond, transporting might be a bit more complicated. You are not going to be able to take one of those large luggage carts, the kind you rent, through security, even pleading that you have a car seat to take. Have a way to transport your car seat from after you check-in. You can take the large luggage cart up to the security line but I find it much eaiser to organize this while I'm checking in. There can be a lot of people outside security, saying good bye, etc. and I don't want to pfaff with my things at that point. Once my luggage is gone after check-in, I find these carts too big anyway and get rid of them there. I then roll the car seat to security, through the line and up to the X-ray machine.
A market for products has cropped up. This is not an exaustive list!
These products attach the car seat to a suitcase with handle and wheels.
http://www.amazon.com/Traveling-Toddler-Attach-Rolling-Carry/dp/B000JHN3AS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=generic&qid=1206809052&sr=1-1
http://www.amazon.com/TOTEaTOT-Travel-accessory-for-children/dp/B000H7VMO4/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=generic&qid=1206809140&sr=1-2
I have a few concerns;
-The handle was probably not designed to hold the significant weight of a child and a car seat. If it breaks the handle in the middle of the airport, you will have the triple problem of how to transport your suitcase, car seat and child through the airport.
-I can't recommend bringing a rolly bag for a carry-on when flying with children. I prefer a backpack with or without a diaper bag. These types of suitcases are convenient for business people but not parents who need something they can put at their feet and get to what they need in a hurry.
This is a more solid product;
http://www.gogobabyz.com/products/gogo_kids.html
The biggest drawback is the price. I've also heard complaints about the screws that attach the car seat, getting them in and out. It also does not fit all models of car seats. I have seen this "in action" and it did roll very nicely.
There are seveal versions of products that make the car seat into a backpack.
http://www.onestepahead.com/product/osa/363756.html
This is good if your child need to sit in the stroller for most of the time. If he or she walks, you can transfer the car seat into the stroller sometimes.
Which is another alternative. Some parents manage to attach the car seat to the stroller with bungee cords. Depending on the model of car seat and stroller, other alternatives include fitting the car seat into the stroller or even putting a folded car seat in the basket.
The only foldable FAA approved car seat that I know of is the Radian 65 and 80. I have the 65 and I simply attach mine to a small, all metal, foldable luggage cart. There are lots of different designs. Mine is a relic from the first airline I worked for. I recommend the kind that are all metal and have a telescopic handle. The handle is less important but avoid ones with plastic bases. They break too easily (experience speaking). This is the idea;
http://yjsh.manufacturer.globalsources.com/si/6008823364313/pdtl/Luggage-cart/1000995752/Light-weight-Luggage-Carts.htm
I use an extra bungee cord but other parents get creative with the LATCH straps. My toddler can even ride in it. I will admit this is a better alternative for a child who will mostly be walking. If we have a stroller, I fold it up and check it.
The first time I saw this on the net, I thought it wouldn't be secure and safe. You want to try anything out at home first. Make sure it works and wont come loose. The fact is that with children, you are usually walking at a pretty slow pace indoors, often on carpets.
Security
For even little veteran fliers, this can be the scariest part of the flight. Even if your children have done it before, it's best to discuss it each time. They may have forgotten and it may seem very different to them than even just a few months ago.
Once my children were a little rattled by the different accent. Even though the security agent was very nice, they had never heard an Irish brogue before. I was shocked to see them clinging to their stuffed animals as he coaxed ever so gently to place them on the belt. So even a small change, for example, if your child went through the airport when it wasn't so busy if your child experienced security at a smaller airport, you may see a different reaction.
Many security agents are now well-trained in how to deal with the public, especially in special circumstances like with small children.
Discuss that all toys, backpacks and even shoes have to go on the belt. Explain that they will have to walk through the metal dectector arch one by one but they will never be truly separated from you.
Even if you are not flying to the U.S. or even on a U.S. company, you may find this link from the TSA helpful;
http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/children/index.shtm
In some airports, they are experimenting with specific "family" lines. Are these more convenient? better? The jury is still out. I do not have direct experience with them yet. I like the idea of not having a hurried businessperson pushing behind me but then again, it would be frustrating if there were a disorganized family in front of me.
The first item I put on the belt is the stroller and/or car seat. Then I place my bags, the last of which is that with my valuables. Then I get the children to place their things. By the time I get through the metal dectector, my belongings are usually waiting for me. I push them all the way to the end of the belt to get out of the way of other passengers and also to make it easier if they want to do an extra security check. I put the bag with the valuables on first, grab the stroller and/or car seat and then start to put my things together.
If the security peo